Two dads-in-waiting from Germany, looking for the right person to complete our family.
If you're thinking about surrogacy — this page is for you.
You probably have a lot of questions. So do we. That's actually a good sign.​We want to be completely transparent about what a journey with us would look like – not because we're trying to sell you anything, but because we think you deserve to know exactly who you'd be working with.
How we see this relationship.
For us, surrogacy is not a transaction. The woman who carries our child becomes part of our family's story – permanently. That's not a line we use to sound good. It means: we stay in touch, we visit if you'd like, and our child will grow up knowing exactly who made their life possible. That matters to us more than we can properly put into words.
What we bring to this journey.
We've been on this path for four years. We've had connections that meant something, and journeys that didn't continue – for reasons life sometimes brings, none of them bad. What those experiences gave us is perspective. We don't panic. We communicate openly. We show up for the people we're committed to. We've done the hard emotional work, and we've arrived at a place of calm, grounded readiness.
A little about our life.
We're based in Germany – currently in the south, and moving to western Germany later this year to be closer to family and friends. We have a warm home, a garden, and a wide circle of people who will surround a child with love. Christoph works in communications, Sebastian in HR. Between the two of us, we have the storytelling and the spreadsheets covered.
Why we don't work with an agency.
We know that many surrogates prefer to work through an agency – and we respect that completely. It's not the right path for us, and we want to be honest about why.
We worked with an agency once. What we experienced was this: a large upfront fee, very little in return, and – most painfully – a system that left the surrogate with far less support and protection than she deserved. That last part bothered us deeply.
We believe a surrogacy journey is built on three things: a clinic you trust, a lawyer who knows what she's doing, and a real relationship between the people involved. We have all three. We work with Create Fertility in Toronto, one of Canada's most respected fertility clinics. We work with an experienced Canadian surrogacy lawyer who protects everyone in the process – including you. And we are committed to building a relationship with our surrogate that is honest, communicative, and genuinely mutual.
On being international intended parents.
We know the world feels less predictable than it did a few years ago. We understand why some surrogates feel more comfortable working with Canadian IPs – and we think that's a completely fair thing to consider.
What we can tell you is this: Germany is a stable, safe country with a functioning legal system, open borders, and a long track record of international cooperation. We have a Canadian lawyer. We have a Canadian clinic. Every legal step of this journey happens under Canadian law, which protects you fully – regardless of where we live.
We've also read your blog posts, followed your communities, and spoken to other surrogates and IPs over four years. We understand the concerns. And we'd rather address them directly than pretend they don't exist.
If the international aspect raises questions for you, ask us. We'll give you straight answers.
What we hope for in you.
We're not looking for someone perfect. We're looking for someone honest – someone who knows their own reasons for doing this and feels good about them. Someone who wants a real relationship with the people she's carrying for, not just a professional arrangement. Beyond that, we're genuinely open. If something here resonates, even just a little, we think that's worth a conversation.
The practicalities.
We work with Create Fertility in Toronto. We have 16 PGS-tested embryos frozen and ready. All medical and legal processes follow Canadian altruistic surrogacy standards. We are cleared and ready to move forward whenever the right match is found.
What's your question?
Whatever is on your mind – about us, about the process, about what working together would actually look like – ask us. There are
no wrong questions here. We've probably already asked them ourselves.