Are we on the same page?

Surrogacy involves a lot of decisions. Some are logistical, some are deeply personal. Before any journey begins, we think it's important that everyone involved knows where the other stands – not to negotiate, but to make sure the foundation is honest.

Here's our position on the things that matter most.

Being there – physically and emotionally. We're in Germany, which means we can't be around the corner. We've made peace with that, and we hope you can too. What we can promise is that we'll always be reachable – video calls, messages, phone calls, whatever works for you. We'll be in Canada for the embryo transfer, and again around the birth. We'll be present in the ways we can, and we won't pretend the distance doesn't exist.

Difficult scenarios. We believe every life has value, and we don't see the world in black and white. If a diagnosis like Down syndrome comes back, we would not choose to terminate. The exception is if your life or the baby's life is at serious risk, or if there is genuinely no possibility of a life with dignity. These are conversations worth having openly before a match, and we're ready to have them.

• Trust, not control. We don't want to negotiate your diet, your routines, or your daily choices. You've been pregnant before. You know how to take care of yourself and a baby. When we match with you, we're trusting you completely – and we expect you to trust us in return.

  
  

  Risk and legal protection. We do care about minimising legal risk – for you as much as for us. That means we'd ask you not to travel outside of Canada after a certain point in the pregnancy, because Canadian law is what protects everyone in this process. Outside Canada, our legal status as parents isn't guaranteed, and that uncertainty isn't something we want to put anyone through.

  
  

  Communication. Christoph will admit freely that he can be a talker. Sebastian is the quieter one. Together, we'll find whatever rhythm works – how often, which channel, when we want to be in touch and when everyone needs space. We don't have a script for this. We'd rather figure it out with you.

  
  

  If any of this raises questions, that's exactly the point. Write to us.

  📧 sebastian.and.christoph@gmail.com