What happens after the birth – our honest answer

We say it on every page of this website: the journey doesn't end with the delivery.

We mean it. But we also know that's easy to say, and harder to prove before it's happened. So let us try to be specific.

What "staying in touch" actually looks like for us. We don't have a script for this, because we think it should be shaped together. But what we picture is this: photos sent without occasion, a message when something funny happens, a call when you want one. Not formal updates. Just the kind of contact that feels natural between two people who went through something significant together.

Our child will know where they came from. This is not negotiable for us. We will tell them, from the beginning, that a woman in Canada made an extraordinary decision that made their life possible. They will grow up with that story as part of who they are – not as something to explain away, but as something to be proud of. If you want to be part of that story in a more active way as they grow up, we are completely open to that conversation.

You are welcome in our home. We're moving to western Germany this year – closer to family, better connected to the rest of Europe. If you ever want to visit, the door is open. Not as a formal occasion. Just as two people you know, in a place you helped build.

We won't disappear. We've heard the stories. IPs who go quiet after the birth, who send a photo or two and then nothing. We understand why that happens – new parenthood is overwhelming, life takes over, the intensity of the journey fades. We don't intend to be those people. We can't guarantee the future, but we can tell you that we've thought about this, talked about this, and care about it.

The woman who carries our child will always be part of our family's story. That's not a line we use to sound good. It's just true.

📧 sebastian.and.christoph@gmail.com