Four years. Here's what we've learned.

We started this journey in 2020. It is now 2026. That's a long time to want something and not have it yet.

We've been asked, sometimes gently and sometimes less so, why it's taken this long. It's a fair question. Here's our honest answer.

We've had matches that meant something. Women we genuinely connected with, journeys that felt like they were about to begin – and then didn't, for reasons that were nobody's fault. Life is complicated. Surrogacy is no exception. None of those endings were bad. All of them were hard.

In between, there were months of silence. Months of showing up in Facebook groups and feeling like we were invisible. Months of wondering whether we were doing something wrong, saying something wrong, being something wrong.

We weren't. We just hadn't met the right person yet.

What four years has given us – and we mean this without any performance of positivity – is clarity. We know exactly what kind of journey we want. We know how we communicate, how we handle setbacks, how we show up for the people we're committed to. We've done the emotional work. We're not coming into this fresh and wide-eyed. We're coming in grounded.

We also know what we're not. We're not people who panic. We're not people who disappear when things get hard. We're not people who treat a surrogate as a means to an end.

The wait has been long. But we'd rather have waited and arrived at this point – calm, certain, ready – than have rushed into something that wasn't right for any of us.

If you've ever wondered about the timeline: now you know.

We're still here. We're still ready. And we'd love to meet you.

📧 sebastian.and.christoph@gmail.com