What we're looking for – and why it matters
- Jan 19, 2025
- 2 min read
When we started this journey, we spent a lot of time thinking about what we needed to do right: the right clinic, the right lawyer, the right process. It took us a while to understand that the most important thing isn't a process at all. It's a person.
The woman who carries our child will be one of the most significant people in our lives. That's not a romantic idea – it's just true. Which means this decision, for both of us, deserves honesty.
So here's what we're genuinely looking for.
Someone who communicates. Not constantly, not formally – just openly. Someone who tells us how she's feeling, what she needs, when something's off. We're not fragile. We'd rather know.
Someone who wants a real relationship. Not a professional transaction with a warm veneer. We want to laugh together, share photos for no reason, text each other about nothing. We want the kind of connection that makes this whole journey feel like something built, not just managed.
Someone who knows her own why. We're not looking for someone to justify herself. But we do hope to work with a woman who has thought this through, feels good about it, and brings that groundedness into everything we do together.
Someone who will let us be there. We can't be in Canada for most of the pregnancy. But we want to be present in the ways we can – video calls, messages, knowing how appointments went. We care about how she's doing, not just about the outcome.
We have 16 PGS-tested embryos at Create Fertility in Toronto. We are medically and emotionally ready. What we're waiting for is the right person.
If something here resonates – even a little – we'd love to talk.
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