This is how two became one

Before we start: We are grateful for the chance to share a little of ourselves with you. There's always more to tell – so if something here makes you curious, please get in touch.

Sebastian: "In August 2013, we had our first date after texting for exactly two days. Christoph had plans for the weekend – he was flying to Munich to visit a friend. I didn't want to wait. So I asked him to meet me at the airport before he left. We sat outside the terminal, surrounded by taxis and suitcases, drinking coffee out of paper cups. It was the most unusual first date I'd ever been on. And somehow, the best.

When he landed a few days later, I was there to pick him up. That's how it started. We've been together ever since."

Christoph: "We talked about having children on that first date. I think it was Sebastian's third or fourth question. For some people that would have been alarming. For me, it was one of the reasons I fell in love with him."

Sebastian: "In our family, I'm the one who cooks. I grew up in kitchens – my grandparents', my parents', my own. I have around 60 cookbooks and I'm not apologising for any of them. Cooking is how I decompress, how I show love, and – I'm already planning this – how I want to spend time with our child.

I work in HR. Work-life balance matters deeply to me. I intend to be a very present dad."

Christoph: "The things that matter most to me are loyalty and honest communication. I believe a relationship is only as strong as the honesty inside it. I'm also, as Sebastian will happily confirm, slightly obsessed with making a home feel like a home. Cushions, candles, the right kind of light. It started long before we decided to have a child.

I think it comes from how I grew up – the youngest of three, surrounded by warmth. My mother died not long after we got married, before she ever got to be a grandmother. She would have been wonderful at it. I carry that with me. It's part of why this matters so much."

Christoph & Sebastian: "We're in the process of moving to western Germany this year – a deliberate choice to be closer to family and old friends, and to build the kind of community around us that we want our child to grow up in. We have a warm apartment, a garden we've slowly turned into something we're proud of, and a circle of people who will love this child before they've even arrived.

Life is short. We try not to forget that.

We run. We do yoga. We host dinner parties that go too long. We've been together for twelve years and we still make each other laugh.

And we are ready – in every sense – to become fathers."

Read more about what we're looking for in a surrogate, how the process works, and why we don't work with an agency.